Help? Well...I'm not divorced, but I'd like feedback... I dated a guy maybe x-x yrs ago. We broke up and haven't had contact since then. Earlier this year I began thinking a lot about him. I thought about contacting him, but I wasn't sure I wanted to open that can of worms, plus the fact that I figured he was still with this one particular woman he started dating shortly after we broke up. So tonight I decide to google him and I found out that the original woman I thought he was with was no where in the picture. He was dating a different woman beginning in the summer of 'x and just recently broke up with her earlier this year. SO, from what I found out, I think he's single again. Our relationship ended mainly because I was in a bad place back then. I was very unaware of my emotions and just in a very angry place in my life. I wasn't mean to people - I just had unresolved issues that I never dealt with. Back then, as soon as I broke up I regretted it, but at that time the damage was done. I really hurt him and he didn't want to talk to me. I was also kind of ous and truly thought I didn't care. Since then, I've been working a lot on myself, doing a lot of personal healing and exploration and I feel like I'm at a better place. No one is perfect, and I think that I have a better, more realistic view of relationships and expectations. I realize what a good person he was and I also see how our flaws weren't really flaws. We were imperfect people who needed to slow down and not rush the relationship. In any case, I want some feedback. Men: How would you feel if someone you were with contacted you out of the blue? He was obviously very hurt when we broke up and, I figure, he'd be very leary of responding to me. Besides, if he really wanted to talk to me, wouldn't he have already tried to do so by now? What are your thoughts on this? Women: What would you do? Would you swallow your pride and ask for forgiveness, or would you just send a note telling him you've been wondering how he's doing? Oh, and by 'forgiveness' I don't necessarily mean ask for a second chance. I just mean I want him to know how sorry I am and how I can see all of that now in retrospect. Or, should I just let it go and keep looking forward?