Mother's Day ramblings I lurk in an online community for new mothers and today they are talking about Mother's Day and there is this over-riding attitude of oh-I-hope-my-husband-remembers-and-gets-me-something-but-sigh-I-understand-if-he-does-not. (They are all straight from what I can tell.) That sort of quiet desperation and emotional unfulfillment just drives me NUTS. It is their first mother's day as mothers and there they are silently hoping that Mr. Man makes it special but they are already resigned to forcing themselves to be okay if he does not. The beginning of a lifetime of disappointments. Perhaps I am extra sensitive to this b/c I watched my mother be constantly let down at every single possible special moment and in every single possible way for x years until the biggest disappointment and slap in the face of all finally took place. And perhaps this is more of a feminist issue than a lesbian issue but seeing that sort of weak, subordinated, pitiful situation just makes me want to spit. The emotions regarding it are so strong I can practiy taste them. I am not sure what my point is other than, jesus christ, I am glad I am single.

The thing I know for sure is that the kids save their best temper tantrums and bad attitudes for Mother's Day (and my birthday). At least my gf makes sure the fur-children send me cards! -A-

Mother's Day should come with instructions for New Mom's and what expectations should be. ie, Be Kind to yourself, until kids are old enough to do things and expect nothing else.

My mom hate(d) bkfast in bed I know what you're feeling, my mother also went through decades of resigning herself to disappointment from my father. But my diff is that she HATED bkfast in bed! [And still does, but no one would dare to try it anymore.] Lots of the mother's day things that are typical never worked on her. I knew she loved lilacs since she was a kid, so I always get her lilacs on mother's day and she always loves it. You are not **extra** sensitive, just regular i say. And i also agree that it's a feminist issue: i watch my married sister go through so much crap and wonder how she can feel so very "correct" in a life where she's subordinated in so many areas because she doesn't have a penis. In everything from adding washer fluid to the car to buying a new clock radio, it's not her decision or task and she doesn't want it either.

I already got my mothers day gift! Okay, this may sound alittle sappy, so please bear with a proud mom moment. The other evening I gave my youngest a hug and told her, "One day you will have more, I promise." She said, "Mom, I have you and my sister, I don't want anything else but you guys." That was my gift! Then I bawled my eyes out. Okay, cheesey, I know, but these are the things I live for.

My parents told me that we did not celebrate Mother's Day and Father's Day (and Ventine's Day) because they were just "Hallmark Holiday's" created by "the man" to sell crap and flowers. I spend time in pafo (yes, I am a sick, sick person) and I too have been saddened by the new Mom's posting about this. I also am saddened and angered by the fact that many poeple seem think that their husbands should ignore their own Mothers on Mother's Day and spend all their time and energy focused on their wives........

Me too... Remembering that my Mom always preferred a grimy little fist full of hand picked wildflowers...

Wow, what a formidable mom! Sounds like you were fortunate to have her. Is she theyou refer to when you say that you were 'raised by a drag queen'?

The Very Same God Rest Her Proud Lioness Soul.